I love this time of year. The holidays have run their course, the rush to shop and fit in all the holiday parties has subsided, and the promise of a bright, shiny new year is on the horizon. I always feel a unique combination of nostalgia and anticipation as the days of the current year dwindle down.
New Year’s resolutions are a controversial topic and if you’re a Questioner like me (where my Gretchen Rubin fans at?), January 1 can seem like an arbitrary date that gets way too much credit. [Seriously, who picked dark, cold January to be the start of the new year?? What about spring where everything is bright and happy and blooming? I digress…] Whether you pick an intention or set specific SMART goals, I do think it’s important to reflect on the progress you’ve made throughout the year. The intentionality of evaluating what you want to bring with you and grow in the new year and what should be left behind helps set the tone for moving forward.
Today I’m sharing the review I’ve done for the past three years to get me in the right mental space to take on a new year. Pick and choose what speak to you or go all in, but whatever you pick make it your own and be honest with yourself. This is purely for you and I promise you the more you put into it the more you’ll get out of it. So, get cozy and light yourself a candle, pour a cup of tea and get out your favorite pen and some paper. Let’s dive on in.
KEEP STOP START
I like to start with what I call Keep, Stop, Start to get the juices flowing. Take out a piece of paper and make three columns. Don’t think too hard about it and just brain dump your thoughts onto the page.
KEEP - What actions, people, habits, hobbies, and events were important to you in 2018 that you want to bring into 2019? Maybe it was how you started going to yoga consistently or you started putting your health first – whatever it is that you thought benefited you in a positive way, stays with you in the new year.
STOP – What held you back this year from being your best self? People, habits, energy investments, finances, negative self-talk, anything that feels incongruent with the lifestyle you are trying to live. These are the energy sucks that no longer need to consume your time in the new year.
START – What habits will bring you closer to your best self? These are the new opportunities, the big ideas that keep you up at night, the people who deserve your energy, the adventures you want to take. Throw it all on the page, brainstorming whether it’s a super specific goal or a general intention.
Now that you’re feeling inspired and excited for the possibilities of 365 days, lets tease out the highs and lows of 2018 of the past year and see what we can learn from it. If you keep a planner or a journal, I like to go back over each week to remind myself of all that happened.
· What were your favorite memories of 2018?
· What were your biggest wins?
· What challenges shaped you?
Now it’s time to get focused. You have another year of experience under your belt of what worked and didn’t work. Take stock of where you are right now.
· What specific goals do you have for 2019?
· What could stand in your way of achieving those goals?
· What would it take to make 2019 a “success”?
Create a strong visual of where you want to be. Spend some time thinking how you will feel when you achieve your goals and where you want to be when you’re reflecting on 2019 a year from now.
· My relationships are …
· My finances are ….
· My career is …
· I am …
WORD OF THE YEAR
This is my favorite part of the review, because you are picking a word that serves as your intention and motivation for the next year. I like to choose something I am in need of in my life. Two years ago my word was “healing,” when my health was at it’s absolute lowest and I was about to start the Autoimmune Protocol. Every hard day, every decision I made I would ask myself, “will this bring me closer to healing?” Last year I picked “joy” when I was struggling with moving across the country away from my family and friends. I made some big decisions this past year, including welcoming my pup Lola into my life who has brought me immeasurable joy.
What do you need more of right now? Look back on what you’ve written in your review. What themes are sticking out to you?
I am ecstatic for this new year of growth for you, love. Let me know your word for 2019 so I can support you in your journey. Cheers to you!